Have you ever stopped to consider why having a child whom others think of as “nice” is so important to us as parents? I’m almost 100% sure that every parent wants to raise a child that is described as “nice” - kind, compassionate, putting others’ needs ahead of their own, well-mannered, and generally liked. The … Continue reading The disease to please: Why we need to stop raising “nice” kids – and start raising kind ones
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Leading versus Managing: Why parents need to bridge the gap
Leadership has been discussed over and over again in the professional world, with many blogs, books, podcasts, and courses being dedicated to the subject. In contrast, very few people speak about the importance of being a leader in the parenting relationship. Leadership in the parenting relationship can be even more important than in the professional … Continue reading Leading versus Managing: Why parents need to bridge the gap
Why Punishment Does Not Work, and What to Do Instead
How often do you hear yourself saying “I’m counting to three and this better get done!” or yelling “go to your room and think about what you’ve done!” or at worst, finding yourself hitting your child?
Many of us, myself included, come from a cultural background where our parents believe(d) that punishment is not only a way to improve their children’s behavior, but also a hallmark of being a good parent.
How to set boundaries (respectfully) … and keep them!
Imagine yourself in a magical wonderland where everything is open to you and nothing is off limits. You can touch, poke, prod without anyone stopping you. The one caveat here is that you never know if what you are doing is safe, or what the outcome will be, because there are no boundaries. Photo by … Continue reading How to set boundaries (respectfully) … and keep them!
How to Manage Your Frustration while Managing Your Toddler
Frustration. We have all been there. Explore some of the pressures we feel when managing our little kids and some sure-fire ways to feel better quickly!
Talking to Teens: How to discipline effectively
Imagine driving a high-powered vehicle with the on-board computer not quite responding quickly enough. You know where you want to go, and how quickly you want to get there, but the warning lights, brake system and steering control are not quite up to scratch. Risky, right? It is not your fault, or the car’s. It … Continue reading Talking to Teens: How to discipline effectively
Calm Amid Corona: You Are Not a Bad Parent (A Crash Course in Mindful Parenting #4)
Last week we spoke about the first two pillars of mindfulness: Acceptance and Awareness. We also discovered that there might be more going on with our kids when we parent on “autopilot.” So, where do we go from here, now that we are paying attention and becoming aware of the other factors that might lead … Continue reading Calm Amid Corona: You Are Not a Bad Parent (A Crash Course in Mindful Parenting #4)
Calm Amid Corona: A crash course in Mindful Parenting #2
This time during lockdown can be especially challenging. We are not only dealing with the pressures of working from home while home-schooling or caring for our little ones full-time, but also with the health and economic worries. While we are with our younglings 24/7 over the next couple of weeks, let’s explore and change some … Continue reading Calm Amid Corona: A crash course in Mindful Parenting #2
Calm Amid Corona: A crash course in mindful parenting
These last few weeks have been such a challenge. We are all scared, worried and have a good dose of cabin fever. Not the ideal state we want to be in when trying to get work done while home-schooling our little ones. And then there is THEIR behaviour. How do we navigate all of this … Continue reading Calm Amid Corona: A crash course in mindful parenting







