How often do you hear yourself saying “I’m counting to three and this better get done!” or yelling “go to your room and think about what you’ve done!” or at worst, finding yourself hitting your child?
Many of us, myself included, come from a cultural background where our parents believe(d) that punishment is not only a way to improve their children’s behavior, but also a hallmark of being a good parent.
Imagine yourself in a magical wonderland where everything is open to you and nothing is off limits. You can touch, poke, prod without anyone stopping you. The one caveat here is that you never know if what you are doing is safe, or what the outcome will be, because there are no boundaries. Photo by … Continue reading How to set boundaries (respectfully) … and keep them!
Imagine driving a high-powered vehicle with the on-board computer not quite responding quickly enough. You know where you want to go, and how quickly you want to get there, but the warning lights, brake system and steering control are not quite up to scratch. Risky, right? It is not your fault, or the car’s. It … Continue reading Talking to Teens: How to discipline effectively
Is your child frustrated? Giving up too quickly? Not even willing to try? Check their mindset! Carol Dweck, the first psychologist to identify two key mindsets that determine motivation and long term achievement, found in her research that those children who believed that ability is something that is developed (i.e. the children who displayed a … Continue reading How to cultivate a growth mindset for long term success
This time during lockdown can be especially challenging. We are not only dealing with the pressures of working from home while home-schooling or caring for our little ones full-time, but also with the health and economic worries. While we are with our younglings 24/7 over the next couple of weeks, let’s explore and change some … Continue reading Calm Amid Corona: A crash course in Mindful Parenting #2
These last few weeks have been such a challenge. We are all scared, worried and have a good dose of cabin fever. Not the ideal state we want to be in when trying to get work done while home-schooling our little ones. And then there is THEIR behaviour. How do we navigate all of this … Continue reading Calm Amid Corona: A crash course in mindful parenting
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